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Others can mean anything from situations, to people, to many health conditions people blame it on.
How many times have you heard someone (or yourself said) say something like this:
--If only my husband hadn't brought X home.
--How can I go to their house and not eat what they cooked for me. That's rude.
--I have to keep X in the house for my husband or for my kids.
(X = the foods we don't need to eat or our trigger foods)
Debbie talks about the fact that none of us have someone holding us down pouring high calorie foods in our mouth. No one is pointing a gun to our heads and making us eat. We choose to do that. We make the decisions. If we use this excuse, we are saying we are blameless in our situation, and therefore it's an excuse not to be "able" to do anything about it. So we have to eliminate this language and this excuse from our lives to be successful.
Many of us live with people who are less than supportive of our efforts. They want us to go out and eat with them, and choose places where we have a really hard time eating healthy, or they do bring stuff into the house that is hard to resist. BUT, that doesn't mean we have to eat it, does it?
As far as keeping something in the house for the husband and kids, the question to ask about those foods is: Are they really foods your children and family NEED to eat? If it's ding dongs, ho hos, chips, etc. is there a healthier alternative? If so, buy it instead.
We do not have to EXPLAIN why we aren't eating something. All we have to do is practice and be ready to say two words...NO THANKS! No explanation needed. Linda Spangle has a softer version of this, namely, No thanks, I will have some later. That gets the food pushers off your back. And "later" might mean a year from now or a decade from now. WE get to choose.
When we say "no" to food, it arouses many uncomfortable emotions. That's when we should blog our feelings, talk to a friend who understands, or do something to get that feeling out there. As Debbie says: We will not die from uncomfortable feelings. To that, I add, but we may be killing ourselves by eating too much food.
We have to stop blaming other people and things for our weight problem and take responsibility for our actions.
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